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Creating Boundaries - Truths from a Drug Rehab in South Africa

I’ve had a lot of people tell me how 2016 was not their year. But for me, it was one of the most exciting and enlightening years that I’ve ever had.

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t filled with overseas trips or big fancy events, and it certainly wasn’t smooth all the way.

But last year, was a year of self-discovery and inner growth.

Creating boundaries - Truths from a drug rehab in South Africa

The Big Move - away from old bad habits

I guess, it all started when I made the big move.

I ended numerous toxic relationships (strange because at the time I thought they were harmless), I started to work on the radical co-dependent muddle that I had unknowingly slipped into and I started gathering all the pieces of me that I had scattered around myself.

The truth is, I had ended up in the place I was because I had put all my reasons to be happy in other people. Which kept much of myself outside of me, making it impossible to be alone.

I frequently felt empty, unnoticed and out of love with myself.

It was a constant struggle to exist outside of the many co-dependent relationships I had developed.

Creating Boundaries

I’ve always struggled with boundaries, in my personal life and in relationships.

It’s probably because I always thought that having boundaries meant that you had to be uptight and rigid.

But to my surprise, having boundaries actually means knowing where I stop and where another person begins.

Introducing boundaries to my life helped me prevent or rather reduce the enmeshment I experienced my entire life.

The beauty of creating boundaries is that they are not fixed; we can change the them according to how we feel at the time and who we are with.

Some can be more complex but others are as simple as – not doing every favour that is asked of me.

Boundaries enable you to place more importance on yourself. Mine helped to get to the point where I no longer will allow myself to go into deficit in order to drive another human being.

When I began to love myself

Last year, I began to love myself. I began to take charge of my life and my decisions. Today, I know myself better than anyone else I know and I’m grateful for that.

I’m grateful for the trials and tribulations of 2016 and all the years before that. I’m grateful for the mistakes I’ve made, without them I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

Taking charge of my life and the people I let into it, I have laid good foundations for building healthy, solid relationships.

2016 left me with a few conclusions:

  1. Your mistakes do not define you, they align you.
  2. The people you surround yourself do influence your life – negatively or positively.
  3. Loving someone doesn’t mean doing ANYTHING for them.
  4. Your looks, clothes and hobbies are not a direct reflection of you.
  5. Putting your values aside to connect with people doesn’t work.
  6. Allowing other people’s chaos to affect our lives will in turn affect our own serenity.
  7. Being healthy isn’t only about eating healthy, but it’s also about having a healthy mind.
  8. Things go wrong when you don’t plan.
  9. Time heals everything but only if you put some effort in.
  10. Our lives are a manifestation of our thoughts, positivity is one of the most powerful tools we have.

Step Away Drug Rehabilitation Centre South Africa

It’s important to take a look at your life, to really dig deep. Look at the friends you have, your decisions, behaviours and your emotions – are they a true reflection of who you are?

Is this what you want for your life? Is this really you?

Often life gets in the way and we forget or lose who we are and for a lot of people, this is where addiction comes in.

When our lives do not reflect balance and our true ourselves, we begin to seek “happiness” elsewhere – substances, people, possessions.

The Step Away Drug Rehab in South Africa has successfully assisted many people through situations like yours.

All that is required of you, is your commitment to a better life, a fuller a life.

For more information about our rehab and its facilities, please contact us.

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